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  • Leonie van Hest

Self love is the source of all love

There is definitely truth in the saying: “You can’t pour from an empty cup”

If you haven’t got it in you, you cannot give it to someone else

If you only concentrate on making others happy, and ignore your own dreams, goals or purpose in life, then you are neglecting the care for yourself Developing self love doesn’t have to mean becoming self absorbed. Self-absorption would be feeding the EGO and we want to try to do the opposite

In order to love others you have to love yourself first! This means:

  • Accepting yourself completely the way you are, with your strengths as well as weaknesses.

  • Stay true to yourself! Be who you are meant to be...not who others expect you to be!

  • Let go of your EGO Your EGO is that voice in your head. The part of you that can feel offensive, that can be disappointed, who feels scared or fearful, and the part that can continuously worry and overanalyse matters. Try to make your EGO smaller in order to come closer to your inner self.

  • Look after yourself and your body with love. Think better about yourself so that you can take care of yourself better.

  • Don't beat yourself up all the time. If your friend makes the same mistake as you do then you would immediately forgive him/ her. You encourage them and praise them... Learn to talk to yourself the same way...OK I made a mistake...tomorrow is another day!

  • Be mindful! Don't believe all you think! Observe your thoughts and let go of self criticism if it pops up in your mind! Change your thoughts into positive ones.

  • You are worthy of being treated well! Therefor set boundaries for yourself! “Especially if you are a giver...because no one else will..."

  • Be grateful for all the blessings in your life! If you cannot be content with what life is offering you now, you may never feel the inner peace that comes with gratitude. Gratitude makes you humble and humbleness decreases your EGO. Humbleness is the opposite of arrogance.

  • Try to understand the person behind the mean words or actions...He/She might be insecure, jealous, ignorant or craving for recognition. Try to look for the innocent spot in every person! Even if you don't like what they do or say...Because you might find that their words or actions are not always who they are! There might be a very vulnerable person hiding behind their anger or hostility.


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